February 18, 2016; 25 weeks

Rose,

On February 18^th we had our next appointment with Dr. Chang. I was very excited for this appointment. I had been able to feel you start moving since our last appointment with him, and took this to be a good sign. I figured this meant you were getting bigger and stronger and doing well.

Dad and Grandma Giles came and picked me up from work again for this appointment.

When we saw the ultrasound technician she did some standard measurements to see how you were doing. You were almost 2 lbs! I couldn’t believe how big you are getting! She said that she wasn’t sure why Dr. Chang had put Heterotaxy in his notes at the last appointment, because heterotaxy generally means that your digestive organs are on the opposite side of where they should be, and that everything was currently in the correct positions. That gave me a good amount of hope. She took a lot of pictures for us! So many sweet pictures of your face. And I saw you yawn which was just the cutest thing I’ve ever seen!

Dr. Chang came in and started looking at your heart again. He kept asking for video clips of what we were looking at. He said he wanted to review them with some other surgeons. He drew us another picture, which I sure appreciate. I understand so much more when I can see what he is talking about. He said that your pulmonary veins, which they weren’t able to see last visit, were there. But that they did have a small hole in them. He said that there was something wrong with the right ventricle walls, causing that chamber to not pump correctly. It didn’t seem to be pumping so much as sloshing. But the concern Dr. Chang brought up that seemed most severe is that your pulmonary valve (which was bulbous before) was now double the size it should be. Which as your lungs are developing id going to cause it to press on your tracheal and bronchial. Grandma asked if these things looked like they could be corrected with surgery, Dr. Chang thought that the problems with your heart had a possibility of being correctable, but that if the pulmonary valve pressed on your tracheal and bronchial while they were developing, that the damage from that wouldn’t be able to be repaired. He showed more concern that you may not make it full term than at your last appointment.

He let us know he wanted to see us again in a month to see how things were looking. As Dr. Chang left the ultrasound technician said she needed to go get Dr. Lee and have him talk to us, and that she also needed to let him know that my amniotic fluid was measuring high at this appointment. Which could be caused by a majority of things; your heart problem, and chromosome abnormality, gestational diabetes. She wasn’t sure, just needed to document it.

Dr. Lee came in and talked to us shortly after she left. He told me he didn’t want me to feel like I wasn’t being met with often enough. That the reason my next appointment was so far off was that even if they were able to see things worsening, that you are small enough still that they wouldn’t be able to do anything for you. At your next appointment I will be 31 weeks, and they should be able to have a better game plan at that point.

This was a tougher appointment than I expected it would be. Dr. Chang didn’t seem as optimistic about your situation as I had hoped. I hadn’t been expecting a miracle, but I was hoping that at least things wouldn’t be worse.

I’m grateful for the continued support and prayers of everyone who loves us. I can’t imagine not having the peace and comfort that I’ve had. I’m so thankful for the knowledge I have of the gospel. Knowing that no matter what happens, Heavenly Father loves you even more than I do. And He has a plan for you. Whether or not that plan is the same as mine. As tough as this situation is, I’m glad to have that knowledge, even when it is hard to see with that perspective.

February 10, 2016; 24 weeks

Rose,

February 10^th I had an appointment to go meet with Dr. Eilers who would be my new OB now that I will be delivering at Emmanuel instead of in Tualatin. It was just a normal checkup appointment, but I had anxiety about going to a new office alone since I didn’t know where I was going. Liz Freeman came with me to ease my anxiety, and because I didn’t want to make Dad leave work early for such a short appointment.

Dr. Eilers had a great manner about him. I really felt comfortable with him right away and am excited about having him be our doctor. He let me know that since my side of the pregnancy is going so normal and smooth, that I am welcome to go back to my OB Dr. Kelly in Tualatin until I’m 36 weeks. That way I won’t have to travel so far, and Dr. Eilers will be able to keep an eye on things at that point where he believes complications would arise if there are going to be any.

He also said that he would keep in touch with Dr. Chang as I continue my appointments with him. And that he would call Emmanuel and have them reach out to me to schedule a tour of the NICU there to put some of my anxieties at ease.

January 21, 2016; 21 weeks

Rose,

We went back to NW Perinatal on January 21, 2016 to meet with Dr. Peter Chang, your cardiologist. I had been looking forward to this appointment and hoping for more answers. I had a lot more anxiety about this appointment than I did the appointment previous. The appointment went about the same as the last one. Dr. Chang did have a little more information for us and drew us a picture of what your little heart looks like right now. There were 4 main things that he gave us names of for what he thought was wrong:

1.       Atrio Ventricular Cushion Defect

2.       Ventricular Septal Defects

3.       Interruption of Inferior Vena Cava

4.       Heterotaxy (though he couldn’t tell yet if it’s Polysplemia or Asplemia

He also let us know that he wasn’t able to see the veins that connect the heart to the lungs. But that at this stage in your development, it isn’t uncommon to not be able to see them yet. He pointed out that your pulmonary valve looked a little bulbous, and that the walls of your heart look too thick in some places. He also gave us an informational book for congenital heart defects called “It’s my heart” put out by the Children’s Heart Foundation. He let us know that despite all the problems, you seem to be developing fine. That as your lungs continue to develop and they begin to use more blood things may become more difficult for you. But that only time would tell.

Dr. Chang said he wanted to continue to keep an eye on your heart as you progressed so that we could have a better idea of how best to help you as you continue to grow. As he left Dr. Tomlinson came in to answer any other questions we might have. I was curious if there was anything I needed to be doing differently to help you more. He said that my pregnancy, other than your heart, is very normal; that I should just continue to eat well, exercise, and take my vitamins. I also asked if your condition would change my options for how I would deliver. He responded that it was early to tell, but that at this stage, you were too small for an operation to likely be successful, and that your best hope was to let you get as big as possible so your chances of a successful operation would be higher. That likely I would be able to go into labor naturally so that you got as big as you could. I was happy to hear this.

I left the office that day with a lot of concern, but also I felt very hopeful for your well being. Dad, Grandma Fredrickson, and Grandma Giles were all with us that day. It was so helpful to have extra people there for support and to ask questions that I couldn’t come up with.

January 13, 2016; 20 weeks

Rose,

The next morning, January 13, 2016, we left early for your appointment. So many people kept reaching out to let us know they were fasting for you. Besides the people I talked to the night before, which had been mostly immediate family, Grandma kept getting loving texts from extended family letting us know you were in their prayers or that they would be fasting that day for you as well. Traffic was bad, and I had more anxiety about getting to the appointment than the actual appointment. I really feel like everyone’s prayers were really at work. I was unnaturally calm given the situation, and my normal anxiety of any doctor appointment.

Finally we were called back for the ultrasound. They looked for a long time at your heart. I was amazed at how advanced technology is. They looked at every chamber and were able to pinpoint and listen to each valve individually. The ultrasound technician was quiet through the whole thing, and I had little to no idea what we were looking at. After she finished, the doctor, Dr. Lee, came in to look at things with her. After they looked for a while, Dr. Lee also said that he didn’t really know what was wrong. That it looked like there were quite a few abnormalities, but that he wanted us to meet with a pediatric cardiologist in a week.

Dr. Lee said normally there are two reasons for a birth defect: either a construction error, meaning something was assembled incorrectly while you were developing; or it was a blueprint error, meaning you were put together “correctly” but the plans were wrong; usually caused by genetics. He did let us know that because of the way the rest of your organs looked, in his opinion it was unlikely that things were genetic. He offered us the option of doing an amniocentesis which had a very very small risk of causing a miscarriage. We decided that we would wait until you were born and have them do a blood test after you were born to find out if there were genetic irregularities that had been the cause.

I asked the doctor if he would be able to explain some of the abnormalities he was seeing to us. He said that two of the chambers in your heart didn’t have good segregation. When he showed me on the ultrasound, it looked to me like there were only 3 chambers instead of 4. He let us know that some of the valves that usually are offset were parallel in your heart. That some walls were too thick. That blood flow in some directions was too strong and others too weak. It was nice to know what he was seeing, but also scary to hear this list of things that I had no idea how serious any of them were.

Dr. Lee told us that we would now need to deliver at Legacy Emanuel Hospital. That in his opinion it was 100% likely you’d need surgery after you were born. So they wanted us to deliver at the hospital that our cardiologist works at. That was a little hard to hear.

As we left the doctor’s office I got a little teary as things started to sink in a little more. I emailed my manager and asked if I could take the rest of the day off. I just needed to process and have some time away from things. Dad decided to go back to work and Grandma stayed with me for the rest of the afternoon. I really can’t stress enough how, even though there was a lot of sadness, there was so much calm I had during all of this. I know it was the result of everyone’s prayers and faith on all our behalf. Uncle Daren called and asked if we would like him to come by later that evening when Dad was home and give me a blessing. I told him I really would love that.

Grandma and I decided we needed to go buy you a little pink elephant toy that I had been keeping my eye on. It reminded me so much of my grandma, and I knew I wanted it to be for you, from her. It was difficult for me to look at baby clothes while we were at the store. With all the unknown of your future I couldn’t bring myself to buy anything other than the elephant.

Grandma went home that afternoon and Dad came home shortly after. Daren came over soon after Dad got home from work, and Daren gave the sweetest blessing. I don’t remember much of what was said, but I sure remember how I felt. I felt so close to you, which I hadn’t felt until this point. I previously had been excited to be a mom, and exited to be pregnant, and excited to meet you, but I didn’t feel like I had a connection to you as a person. I feel like I had a lot more ability to see you as one of heavenly Fathers sweet children, and know that he has his own plan for you.

It was a rough day, but so spiritual at the same time. I love you so much little Rose.

Janary 12, 2016; 20 weeks

Rose,

On Tuesday January 12, 2016 we went in for my 20 week ultrasound to find out your gender. We were so excited to find out you were a girl! I’d been trying so hard not to hope for a specific gender so I wouldn’t be disappointed if you weren’t a girl. So I was very happy to hear that you were a girl!

At the ultrasound they looked for a while at the rest of your anatomy to make sure that things were looking good and that you were developing properly and on schedule. The ultrasound lasted for a while, they looked at you for about an hour. It sure was fun to get a look at you when we could see more than a little blob. We went back out to the waiting room until my doctor could meet with us. Dr. Kelly told us that there was an abnormality with your heart. They couldn’t get a good enough look at it to be able to tell what exactly what was wrong, so they decided to send us to NW Perinatal Center which is where they send ladies with high risk pregnancies. I was told that I should get a call later that day from the office there to schedule our appointment.

As we left (I had your dad and grandma Giles with me) I immediately started texting family. I asked that you be kept in prayers and that we do a family fast the next day. You sure have a lot of people that love you so much already!

Dad had picked me up at work and we left for your appointment from there, so we headed back to pick up my car. As we pulled in to get my car work my phone rang. NW Perinatal could fit us in first thing in the morning. Our appointment would be at 8:20 the next morning, and it would be 2+ hours long. I decided since we were at my work anyway I would just go in to talk to my manager about taking the following morning off. She was very understanding and I let her know I would be in as soon as I could after the appointment. I was stopped by sweet coworkers who wanted to know your gender, and a few of whom I explained the situation to since I wasn’t planning on coming back in to work after the appointment and got a few questions about things.

When we were all home together that evening, Grandma asked if I would like her to stay for the appointment the next morning. I did. Dad took the morning off work as well. All night I just hoped and prayed that whatever they were seeing would be common and not a big deal. I hoped that you just had a heart murmur, or a hole in your heart. Despite all the fear, Dad and I were very calm that night, and I know we had peace from all the prayers that people were offering on our behalf.